These two words sound so straight forward yet mean so much. I often see people of all ages who suffer from low self esteem and come to see me in the hope that I can some how fix their problem with some medication that will maybe calm their nerves, or help them relax, or even make them more interesting. But the reality is that confidence is something which comes from with in. It's something that we each have to find in ourselves, the qualities that make us unique and interesting.
I realise this is easier said than done. In modern day society there seems to be an ever growing rat race where everyone needs to have the best of everything, look a certain way, be fashionable, have the latest gadgets, be popular, associate with the right people, to feel important or worthwhile. It can be a mine field to negotiate your way through and then also find the time to discover who you are as a person can be next to impossible.
If we were to look at the internet, and platforms like you tube and even blogs, we are constantly inundated with beautiful people, who want to share their beauty tips or their room tours or their latest hauls etc it can be overwhelming trying to keep up with it all, and its more difficult now because we cant seem to get away from all the information exchange, and the standards that people have unintentionally set for others.
Now in no way am I saying we need to cut ourselves off from these media outlets for fear of the effects, in fact I think it can be entertaining and a great way to meet new people and exchange ideas, hence me starting my own blog. But I do think we need to make sure we don't try and aspire to unrealistic images of other people to feel of value ourselves. Because ultimately having the latest make up, or nicest room tour isn't what makes the world go round, its feeling good about yourself when you take away the superficial layers, its about liking the person you see in the mirror before the clothes and make up.
Now for some people this is straight forward they almost seem to be born oozing confidence and self worth and for others it can be much more of a struggle. For me it was definitely an effort, I come from a family of confident opinionated (in a nice way!) individuals so I think I found myself quite lost and struggled to find my own identity. It was like the standards had been set by my older siblings so trying to step out of their shadow was difficult. I think what worked for me was studying and living away from home, that provided me with the ideal situation to spread my wings, make my mistakes and learn who I was as a person.
I do think that sometimes we all need that space and time to really think about life, what's important to us, what we would like to do in the future and what makes us who we are. Most of us aren't the most beautiful,
or the richest or the most intelligent or the funniest of people, we run somewhere in between, but that somewhere is just as important as anywhere else. We all have unique qualities that make us who we are, and no one can replace us, so therefore we are important and necessary even though we may not feel it at times. We need to keep reminding ourselves of our strengths and not spend our time focusing on weaknesses or comparing ourselves to others.
" I am aware that I am less than some people prefer me to be, but most people are unaware that I am so much more that what they see"
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